Teenage Self Harm
The following is a response to a mother asking about her teenage daughter’s self-harm.
Self-harm or self-injury is more and more prevalant and should cause serious concern with any loved ones. It occurs about the same as eating disorders but is more stigmatized leading to less reporting of it. Both males and females engage it in, especially in the teenage years. Drugs and alcohol as well as social isolation and a history of abuse are highly correlated with self-harm. However, as you stated, Goth is the #1 predictor of self-harm in teenagers. In fact, in one recent survey, 53% of those who identified themselves as being interested in Goth admitted to self-harm. Even more alarming, 47% of that group admitted to attempting suicide
Self-harm can mean all sorts of abusive behavior. Biting, scratching. branding, pulling hair and eye lashes, bruising, burning, and cutting are some examples of such self-abusive behavior. Before we go any further, it is important to note that all of these behaviors are dangerous under any circumstances. However, the concern level is higher when certain conditions are met. For instance, if an entire football team gets a brand on their arms, this would not call for a heightened level of concern. If the teen is doing it simply to fit in, then it is a totally different problem than one who is doing it for emotional expression
This is what I presume is the case with your “Goth” daughter.Most chronic self-mutilators have a hard time expressing themselves. They do not know how to cope with certain stressors and they do not know how to tell the world that they don’t know how to cope! This causes severe emotional distress and tension. When most people feel tension, they attempt to deal with it usually by releasing it. Some people may exercise to release the tension. If the exercise is successful in releasing the tension, then it will be used again. A self-mutilator who cuts on herself does so because it releases tension and stress. It worked as a coping mechanism so she does it the next time she feels tension. When she cuts on herself, she can actually see the release in the form of blood. Watching the blood gives her tremendous relief. It’s like a tea pot that has boiled but is still sitting on the stove. The pressure continues to build until either someone lifts it off or it comes out on its own.
Other self-mutilators will harm themselves because they want to feel something. They have become so numb to the world and to their own feelings that they would rather feel pain than feel nothing. Feeling pain reminds them that they are still alive. It reminds them that they are someone who can feel. These types usually have low self-esteems and are probably depressed.
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